VIOLENCE AND ABUSE

I was going to think up a fancy name to mask the edged tone of this topic but on second thought I refrained from that because it is such undue concealment that makes this monstrous act grow and flourish, so instead we going to call a spade a spade.

First things first, I think it's important that we analyze what violence and abuse entails because as shocking as it might sound a lot of people go through this without even realizing they are victims of it. Many of us are apparently aware of the nature of physical abuse and violence...the hitting, biting, chewing etc which could result in grave injury and sadly even death! Heinously perpetrated by supposed loved ones or otherwise. How often though, is light shed on the mental aspect of abuse? How often is that very ill that eats into the inner core addressed? it isn't always about sweat and blood.

People might forget how you met them, what you said to them but they will never forget how you made them feel (yea yea...#borrowedquote...moving on lol) so what's the gain in making them feel their worst, it most definitely doesn't change one's life for the better and more importantly is how do we live with ourselves with such guilt!? It will not take any chip off our shoulders in making those around us feel better, even when not in the mood...just because there are those days...its best to "hibernate" within self than let out that monster to cause ruins to other people's lives...human lives.

More pathetic, is the fact that, this horrendous act is more rampant in the prestigious institution of marriage than any other sphere...what an irony! Why would any sane person deliberately hurt the very ones they chose to love and protect if not madness! (pls pardon my German!). I have so desperately tried to rationalize the whole concept of violence and abuse, perhaps there is a "hidden perspective" no one has cared to explore...breaking news guys; there is really no twist and turns to it, it is as it meets the eye...a series of cold sinister acts which is a menace to the society at large. We hear flimsy excuses like "It's the devil's work"...I laugh in french...even the devil will be shocked at some of the perpetration of these hideous culprits. A typical scenario of violence/abuse starts thus; a preconceived idea is hatched, one inherent from either a family history or external influence, this idea beclouds the person's sense of reasoning and ripples into mad rage which is then acted upon. So here's the real question...what is the best means to nip this menace in the bud before it takes over a generation at the brink of survival!

In my opinion (yea...it counts *side eye*), it starts with a child's upbringing...letting both our male/female kids be aware of the acceptable and non-acceptable mode of conduct and its resultant effect on the society. Knowing that it is never too early to teach them to treat others with love and respect just as they would themselves and even more, not entertaining "childish ignorance" that will affect them in the long run and those around them. Setting the foundation right because if we don't the society will graciously do so for us...the resultant of which often leaves a sour taste. The onus is not just burdened on the parents alone but the "village" as a whole. We can decide to dedicate to being each others support systems and jointly fight this plague that is threatening our peace and sanity because the next victim could just be you or a loved one. We've got the power to fight this and the time is now!

Have a fruitful week fam #Onelove